Friday 12 April 2013

22 + 3 HABIT OF EXCELLENT PEOPLE , WHICH THEY DO DIFFERENTLY ....and CHOOSE to be happy ..

Sharing some thoughts....... from my friends .... ++
  
There are two types of people in the world: 

1) ABOVE THE THINKING LINE -EXCELLENT  person are those who choose to be happy, and 

2) BELOW THE THINKING  LINE - those who choose to be unhappy. 

Contrary to popular belief, EXCELLENT and happiness  doesn't come from fame, fortune, other people, or material possessions. Rather, it comes from within. The richest person in the world could be miserable while a homeless person could be right outside, smiling and content with their life. 

EXCELLENT  people are happy because they make themselves happy AND CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY. They maintain a positive outlook on life and remain at peace with themselves.
The question is: how do they do that ?
Its quite simple. EXCELLENT people have good HABITS that enhance their lives. They do things differently. Ask any happy person, and they will tell you that they
1. Don't hold grudges.
EXCELLENT  people understand that its better to forgive and forget than to let their negative feelings crowd out their positive feelings. Holding a grudge has a lot of detrimental effects on your well being, including increased depression, anxiety, and stress. Why let anyone who has wronged you have power over you ? If you let go of all your grudges, you'll gain a clear conscience and enough energy to enjoy the good things in life.
2. Treat everyone with kindness.
Did you know that it has been scientifically proven that being kind makes you happier ? Every time you perform a selfless act, your brain produces serotonin, a hormone that eases tension and lifts your spirits. Not only that, but treating people with love, dignity, and respect also allows you to build stronger relationships.
3. See problems as challenges.
The word problem is never part of a happy persons vocabulary. A problem is viewed as a drawback, a struggle, or an unstable situation while a challenge is viewed as something positive like an opportunity, a task, or a dare. Whenever you face an obstacle, try looking at it as a challenge.
4. Express gratitude for what they already have.
There is a popular saying that goes something like this: The happiest people don't have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have. You will have a deeper sense of contentment if you count your blessings instead of yearning for what you don't have.
5. Dream big.
People who get into the habit of dreaming big are more likely to accomplish their goals than those who don't. If you dare to dream big, your mind will put itself in a focused and positive state.
6. Don't sweat the small stuff.
Happy people ask themselves, Will this problem matter a year from now ?They understand that life is too short to get worked up over trivial situations. Letting things roll off your back will definitely put you at ease to enjoy the more important things in life.
7. Speak well of others.
Being nice feels better than being mean. As fun as gossiping is, it usually leaves you feeling guilty and resentful. Saying nice things about other people encourages you to think positive, non-judgmental thoughts.
8. Never make excuses.
Benjamin Franklin once said, He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else. Happy people don't make excuses or blame others for their own failures in life. Instead, they own up to their mistakes and, by doing so, they proactively try to change for the better.
9. Get absorbed into the present.
Happy people don't dwell on the past or worry about the future. They savor the present. They let themselves get immersed in whatever they are doing at the moment. Stop and smell the roses.
10. Wake up EARLY every morning.
Have you noticed that a lot of successful people tend to be early risers ? Waking up at the same time every morning stabilizes your circadian rhythm, increases productivity, and puts you in a calm and centered state.
11. Avoid social comparison.
Everyone works at his own pace, so why compare yourself to others ? If you think you are better than someone else, you gain an unhealthy sense of superiority. If you think someone else is better than you, you end up feeling bad about yourself. You will be happier if you focus on your own progress and praise others on theirs.
12. Choose friends wisely.
Misery loves company. That is why its important to surround yourself with optimistic people who will encourage you to achieve your goals. The more positive energy you have around you, the better you will feel about yourself.
13. Never seek approval from others.
Happy people don't care what others think of them. They follow their own hearts without letting naysayers discourage them. They understand that its impossible to please everyone. Listen to what people have to say, but never seek anyone's approval but your own.
14. Take the time to listen.
Talk less; listen more. Listening keeps your mind open to others wisdom and outlooks on the world. The more intensely you listen, the quieter your mind gets, and the more content you feel.
15. Nurture social relationships.
A lonely person is a miserable person. Happy people understand how important it is to have strong, healthy relationships. Always take the time to see and talk to your family, friends, or significant other.
16. Meditate.
Meditating silences your mind and helps you find inner peace. You don't have to be a zen master to pull it off. Happy people know how to silence their minds anywhere and anytime they need to calm their nerves.
17. Eat well.
Junk food makes you sluggish, and its difficult to be happy when you are in that kind of state. Everything you eat directly affects your body's ability to produce hormones, which will dictate your moods, energy, and mental focus. Be sure to eat foods that will keep your mind and body in good shape.
18. Exercise.
Studies have shown that exercise raises happiness levels just as much as Zoloft does. Exercising also boosts your self-esteem and gives you a higher sense of self-accomplishment.
19. Live minimally.
Happy people rarely keep clutter around the house because they know that extra belongings weigh them down and make them feel overwhelmed and stressed out. Some studies have concluded that Europeans are a lot happier than Americans are, which is interesting because they live in smaller homes, drive simpler cars, and own fewer items.
20. Tell the truth.
Lying stresses you out, corrodes your self-esteem, and makes you unlikeable. The truth will set you free. Being honest improves your mental health and builds others trust in you. Always be truthful, and never apologize for it.
21. Establish personal control.
Happy people have the ability to choose their own destinies. They don't let others tell them how they should live their lives. Being in complete control of ones own life brings positive feelings and a great sense of self-worth.
22. Accept what cannot be changed.
Once you accept the fact that life is not fair, you'll be more at peace with yourself. Instead of obsessing over how unfair life is, just focus on what you can control and change it for the better.

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23. RECHARGE THEIR BATTERIES - excellent people battery will always green , and some times they can recharge other . When it turn to yellow or red , they recharge by TRAINING , MENTORING AND GATHERING WITH OTHERS EXCELLENT PEOPLE..

24. HIGH ENERGY - excellent people always have high energy , smile while others are not smiling , greet other not waiting to be greeted ... etc

25. TRUE BELIEVERS - Excellent person always BELIEVE in something TRUELY ... because you choose what you BELIEVE and thats is very , very , very , very .... an i meant it VERY IMPORTANT for you to become EXCELLENT ...

FAKHRUL ANWAR + FRIENDS ....

Thursday 11 April 2013

EXCELLENT - A HABIT LEARN FROM A NATION - JAPAN


Excellence and perfection ,does not come just like that .It is cultivated.It has to be started by "Myself"

1 - Did you know that Japanese children clean their schools every day for a quarter of an hour with teachers, which led to the emergence of a Japanese generation who is modest and keen on cleanliness.

2 - Did you know that any Japanese citizen who has a dog must carry bag and special bags to pick up dog droppings. Hygiene and their eagerness to address cleanliness is part of Japanese ethics.
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3 - Did you know that hygiene worker in Japan is called "health engineer" and can command salary of USD 5000 to 8000 per month, and a cleaner is subjected to written and oral tests!!

4 - Did you know that Japan does not have any natural resources, and they are exposed to hundreds of earthquakes a year but do not prevent her from becoming the second largest economy in the world? -

5 - Did you know that Hiroshima returned to what it was economically vibrant before the fall of the atomic bomb in just ten years?

6 - Did you know that Japan prevents the use of mobile in trains, restaurants and indoor

7 - Did you know that in Japan students from the first to sixth primary year must learn ethics in dealing with people -

8 - Did you know that the Japanese even though one of the richest people in the world but they do not have servants. The parents are responsible for the house and children -

9 - Did you know that there is no examination from the first to the third primary level; because the goal of education is to instill concepts and character building, not just examination and indoctrination. -

10 - Did you know that if you go to a buffet restaurant in Japan you will notice people only eat as much as they need without any waste. No wasteful food.

11 - Did you know that the rate of delayed trains in Japan is about 7 seconds per year!! They appreciate the value of time, very punctual to minutes and seconds

12 -. Did you know that children in schools brush their teeth (sterile) and clean their teeth after a meal at school; They maintain their health from an early age -

13 - Did you know that students take half an hour to finish their meals to ensure right digestion When asked about this concern, they said: These students are the future of Japan